Tips for Being Fully Present as a Realtor: Embrace the Weirdness!

As Realtors, we’re constantly juggling. Listings, showings, emails, texts, phone calls—sometimes it feels like our phones are just an extension of our hands. But here’s the thing: to be really effective (and stay sane), we’ve got to learn how to be fully present. Yep, I’m talking about actually being there—mentally and emotionally—when you’re with your clients, your family, and even with yourself.

Now, I know what you’re thinking: “Who has time to be fully present when I’ve got three showings, two closings, and a text from a buyer at 10 p.m. asking if the paint color in the kitchen will go with their dog’s fur?” I hear you. But that’s exactly why these tips are essential. Trust me, it’ll feel weird at first, but stick with it, and you’ll thank yourself later.

1. Put Your Phone on Do Not Disturb—Yes, You Can Do It!

I’ll admit it—this one freaked me out at first. Realtors live on their phones. The idea of putting it on Do Not Disturb felt like asking a fish to breathe air. But after trying it, I can say it’s a game-changer. Set a time, maybe an hour or two each day, where your phone goes into DND mode. No texts, no emails, no pings from that one client who’s already sent you 17 questions before breakfast.

During this time, be with the people (or task) in front of you—whether it’s your spouse, a friend, or that pile of laundry you’ve ignored for a week. Sure, it feels weird at first. You’ll have that urge to check your phone every 30 seconds like you’re waiting for a winning lottery ticket notification. But the world doesn’t end. Your clients will be there when you’re available again, and you’ll be amazed at how much more focused and refreshed you feel when you come back online.

Here’s the truth: If you’re constantly glued to your phone, you’re not fully there. Clients can sense that. And if we’re being honest, nobody’s ever closed a deal based on how fast they replied to a midnight text. So take the plunge, put the phone down, and see what happens.

2. Find a Group of Agents You Can Confide In—We All Need Our Tribe

This business isn’t just hard; sometimes, it’s downright brutal. Buyers who ghost you, deals that fall apart at the last minute, and sellers who suddenly think their house should be listed for $100k more because “their neighbor down the street did.” It can take a toll, emotionally and mentally. That’s why it’s so important to have a group of fellow agents you can vent to and confide in.

These are the people who get it. They know how it feels when you’re driving from one end of town to the other, scarfing down a granola bar between showings because you haven’t had time for a proper meal. They know what it’s like to have your weekend hijacked by a last-minute showing request that you just can’t turn down. (Cue the eye roll.)

Having a trusted group of colleagues who you can laugh with, cry with, and share battle stories with is essential. It’s like therapy but with more coffee and a lot more “Oh, I’ve been there” moments. Plus, it keeps you grounded and reminds you that while the business can be tough, you’re not alone.

3. Laugh Off the Chaos—Seriously, It’s Better Than Crying

In real estate, if you don’t laugh at the craziness, you’ll probably cry—and nobody needs to see that, right? The truth is, this job is a rollercoaster. One minute you’re on top of the world because a client finally went under contract, and the next minute you’re explaining to another why their dream home just went to someone who offered $50,000 over asking.

Instead of letting the chaos overwhelm you, embrace it. Laugh about the absurdities—like the time I rushed to a showing only to find out my client was running an hour late because they had to “stop for a snack.” (Yup, that happened.) Or that time I almost locked myself in a basement during a showing because I was too busy checking my email instead of focusing on the house.

Real estate is unpredictable, and it’s easy to get caught up in the stress. But when you laugh about it and realize that no one transaction will make or break your career, it becomes a lot easier to handle. And your clients will appreciate the calm, confident vibe you give off. Plus, you’ll enjoy the journey a whole lot more.

4. Take Time to Recharge—Because Burnout Is Real

Look, we all hustle. We pride ourselves on working hard, being available, and going the extra mile for our clients. But there’s a fine line between being dedicated and being burnt out.

So, take some time for you. Whether it’s a quiet morning with a cup of coffee, a yoga class, or even just an uninterrupted hour binge-watching your favorite show (I see you, Netflix), find what recharges you and do it. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll also be a better Realtor for your clients because you’ll have the energy and focus to give them your all.

Being fully present as a Realtor doesn’t just make you better at your job—it makes you better at life. Sure, it feels a little weird at first to put your phone on DND or to confide in your fellow agents, but trust me, it’s worth it. Clients will always be there, but if you’re running on fumes, you won’t be able to give them your best. So, embrace the weirdness, laugh at the chaos, and make time to recharge. Your clients, your family, and your sanity will thank you.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, my phone just came off Do Not Disturb, and I’ve got 37 new messages to check. Wish me luck!

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